

It’s become a romance/romantic comedy cliche, that eager, disrobing, slam-your-partner-against-the-wall sex after the first date.
And if “In Spite of Ourselves” accomplishes nothing else, at least it sticks a skewer in that “let’s get this out of the way” movie and sitcom trope. Because the reasons it’s not a great idea may be dated in the post Grindr era, but they still apply.
Sweet, cute and sentimental to a fault, “In Spite of Ourselves” is a romantic melodrama set in scenic, trendy Portlandia — Portland, Oregon — in fall.
Writer-director Josh Loeb is apparently a rich restaurateur dipping his toes in movie making. As one of the young lovers in it is a pastry baker aspiring to chef status, getting the details of that world and that character’s background right, the film turns out to be less dilettantish and vainglorious than you might expect.
Conor Leslie of “Chained” and TV’s “Titans” stars as Hannah, thirtysomething and running her own bakery and gritting her teeth about her need for the approval of trendy Chef Jake (Ethan Ingle) if she’s to become his dessert-provider.
Brett Dier (TV’s “Jane the Virgin,” “Schooled”) is angsty stand-up comic Archie, someone people recognize thanks to his latest stand-up special. but who always answers “Don’t I know you?” with a curt “Ya DON’T!”
“Archie doesn’t like people,” he fellow stand-ups confirm.
Hannah and Archie “meet cute” in her bakery. He tries too hard to buy her last cinnamon off the kid who just purchased it, and tries and fails to not look at all creepy in doing it.
Hannah’s fellow baker Becca (Britain Seibert) recognizes him and gives a “not that funny” dismissal. But Hannah and Archie make entirely too much eye contact, so something’s happening.
She catches his act during a Portland residency and sparks lightly fly.
But he’s got issues — a father suffering from dementia in an L.A. nursing home. Dad’s capable of being difficult, if not outright violent and his son insists that he not be “medicated into a zombie.” The memory care director reminds Archie and the viewer that “Dementia is a one-way street.”
Hannah? She’s lost her hearing in one ear and afraid of the risks of surgery that might correct that.
“I could die!”
Can these two find love in the middle of career, family and health complications?
Writer-director Loeb is more at home in the kitchen scenes than he is in the clubs. But there are laughs in this script. Archie tries inviting Hannah to “my show.” What manner of show might that be, she blurts, disingenuously?
“You’re a…clown? Oh we have a HUGE clowning community in Portland!”
That’s straight out of “Porlandia,” or should be.
One puts a lot of stock in “chemistry” in such films, and Leslie and Dier have it, with able support from the following actors playing character tropes.
Seibert is the “disapproving friend.” Alyssa Limperis and Mo Mandel play comic pals who’re rooting, rooting SO hard for Archie not to “f— this up.” Both of them are more convincing stand-ups than Dier, although he brings some old pro physicality to the stage act, which never quite overcomes the low energy of his onstage-with-the-mike presence.
And Ingle is a lot of arrogant chef cliches boiled down into just the suggestion of loves-hearing-himself talk and the right pretentious “young” wardrobe. He likes Capri pants for men — “man-pris,” they’re called.
They make Chef Jake look like he’s had “a random late growth spurt” to Archie.
What Loeb has concocted here sticks rigidly to a time-proven recipe. It’s cinematic comfort food, a movie that some streamer or even The Hallmark Channel might pick up, if there was less stand-up comic profanity in it.
So no, don’t expect any surprises. But the laughs and the stars’ chemistry put it over.
Rating: unrated, profanity, sexual situations, drug abuse reference
Cast: Conor Leslie, Brett Dier, Britain Seibert, Glen Morshower, Alyssa Limperis, Mo Mandel, Zora Casebere and Ethan Ingle.
Credits: Scripted and directed by Josh Loeb. An LMNL release.
Running time: 1:40




























